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I’m going to try to spare you (whoever you may be) from really “slight” things that I am thankful for. (One Thanksgiving, when I was a teen, we were sharing things we were thankful for. I played the “silly” card by naming things like deodorant, jelly beans, and my cat.)  However, they won’t be as heavy as today’s.  This is not something that I am proud of, but the end shows how gratitude changes a person’s heart.

Today I am thankful for The Baby.
I’ve shared many times that we are a family of 6. Long before Alan and I started to have children, we knew that we always wanted 4 of them. I have 6 siblings, and he had only two, who were both older than he was. I have so many great memories with my siblings, even if I wasn’t directly part of them. We wanted the same for our children. We wanted them to have each other in a somewhat large count.
I never thought that I wanted 4 in the timing that it happened. Shortly after Sweet T. had turned 1, we discovered that we were pregnant with #4. (She and the Baby are 20 months apart.)
Although having a family of 6 comes with its normal financial woes and troubles, having a family of 6, with 4 kids under the age of 7, with one working parent, and that working parents happens to be in school full-time bumps the financial pressure up even more. To add to this trying time, I felt alone. Not because I had no one, but I was a preacher’s wife. If there was ever anyone that should always trust God to provide it was me. I put myself in this unrealistic bubble, and unknowing bound myself to unnecessary chains.
But I couldn’t. I couldn’t trust God.
I slowly began to envelope myself in a disgusting downward spiral of pity, selfishness, and anger. How could a God who provides for our family allow this to happen to us. We were already drowning in a sea of debt. This time led me down a dark path. I was so angry at the God who saved my darkest soul. I hated the child that was growing in my stomach, and every day I would pray that some how it would go away. [I wanted her to die.] I hate even to share this, because it is a very ugly side that no person wants to admit.
I am a murderer. Not in a literal sense, but in my heart at that time I wanted nothing more.
Needless to say, she continued to grow inside. I remember at one time being so angry at God, but I refused to walk away from Him. In the end, my faith in the Savior of my soul: my black, disgusting, hateful, selfish, murdering soul was the thing that brought me out. Little by little I began to move towards the Word. Every day it began to heal me on the inside.
By the time late May had rolled around, my mind and heart had completely changed. Those feelings I shared above were cleansed away. Although I often remind myself that I am capable of murder, it is also a reminder of how deep God’s grace and forgiveness flow. Every time I hold the Baby, she is a reminder of the goodness of God. When I look at her I see more than a daughter that Alan and I share in love as every parent loves their child. She represents grace.
I am thankful for the Baby.
I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who has given me strength, that he considered me faithful, appointing me to his service.
Even though I was once a blasphemer and a persecutor and a violent (woman),
I was shown mercy because I acted in ignorance and unbelief.
The faith of the Lord was poured out on me abundantly, along with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus.
1 Timothy 1:12-13

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Have you ever heard this rhyme?

Terrible twos, terrific threes

Frustrating fours, fantastic fives

I never really felt that it was completely true. Having worked with many preschool children it seemed that some would get stuck in the terrible twos long beyond the sixes. The other day Alan and I were talking about how fun the Baby has been lately. She has been cute, funny, and easy-going. That’s not to say that she wasn’t cute before, but recently she has seemed extra sweet. It’s hard to explain without digging myself into a hole.

In about a month she will be hitting the 5-year-old mile stone. Whew! Time has flown by!! When she was born I remember thinking to myself how old each of the kids would be when she turned five. Never did I imagine time would have flown by THIS quickly.

Of course, she isn’t five yet.

I needed a hand towel the other day. When I opened the drawer this is what I found:

That is a pear, that has the top cut off, along with the knife she used, hidden in the drawer. At least she used a butter-knife.

With the Baby turning 5, it also means the Oldest is turning 12. *sniff, sniff*

This weekend I helped The Oldest and her BFF to start a blog. They were wanting an outlet to share all they young creative ideas. I wanted to encourage internet safety, and so a blog was born. I hope you take the time to check it out, especially if you have a Tween daughter. It is still a work in progress. If you do stop by, drop them a note to let them know what you think. It will mean the world to them. Really! THE WORLD! Remember they are Tweens; stuff like that is SO important.

Check it out: memyfriendandmiddleschool

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I was taking pictures of the backyard for another project I am working on, when I decided it was a perfect chance for practice with the camera. The Baby is not the most cooperative when it comes to taking pictures, but in her own way, they become fantastic pictures.




































I am a terrible blogger. I can hardly believe it has been almost a month since I posted, but boy this has been a BUSY month.

Actually it has been fast. In fact this entire year has seemed like a blur. A great, wonderful year, but still a blur. Why is it that when you are having a great time, time seems to slip through your hands?

Back to what I was saying. . . I have plenty to write about. Mostly that would mean the kids. However this month most of my time has been occupied with moving. Hopefully for the last time. at least in a very long while.

I thought I would share my latest photos. Sometimes it is the simple things in life that are so enjoyable. (I think that’s what I love about fall). Today we (by we I mean the kids) had Ramen for lunch. The baby had to have a towel under her plate, because she is such a mess, cute, but big mess!!


It is a rare occasion in our house that The Baby actually takes a nap. . .on purpose. Today was one of those days, and I think there is nothing sweeter than a sleeping baby. (or preschooler.)

Growing up my family was a cat family. Cat’s never give you puppy eyes when you are eating.

Now we are a dog family, and I must admit I have a new understanding for the cliche “puppy eyes.” If those sad eyes don’t work, then Daphne resorts to whimpering. Yes, she is just like a child.

We have discovered that Daphne has favorite foods. Her number one top food is pizza. She will do ANYTHING to grab a piece. ANYTHING! Some of her other favorites are meat (of course), and dairy including, but not limited to milk, eggs, cheese, ice cream, pudding, etc.

Fortunately for Daphne we also have a four-year old.

I don’t know if it’s the puppy eyes, or just the delight in feeding her, but The Baby will always feed her something she’s not suppose to have. (Greyhounds have very sensitive stomachs. We can always tell smell when she’s eaten something she’s not suppose to have.) Unless of course The Baby wants it more.

Today it was a doughnut.

After her lunch she was allowed to eat a doughnut. Of course in the end, she only managed to eat the part with vanilla frosting, but whatever. you get the point.

Daphne and the Baby have a unique relationship. The Baby terrorizes Daphne with heavy love, and Daphne eats her food. Or tries to, at least

Daphne nearly grabbed the doughnut

It seems that no matter how hard The Baby tries to shoo her away, Daphne is never far from the table. I think Daphne knows that in the many attempts to be shooed, there is a good chance that the food will end up on the floor, free for the taking. There is also the chance that the Baby will not be paying attention long enough for the food to be grabbed right from her hand. This has even happened to me.

She will stand at full attention until all the food is cleared from the table. She even stands near the Baby’s chair staring at the floor. It’s like if she stares at it long enough, surely something will fall to her. Of course standing at table height makes it that much easier to grab the goodies.

I think it goes to show, with enough determination, anything is possible.

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The other morning shortly after I got up, the Baby come in dressed like this:

She has decided that she want to be an Ice Cream Cone for Halloween. (You’re going to have to use your imagination and look at things like a four-year old.) She did clarify later that she is an upside down ice cream cone. She was very proud of her invention. She used her Minnie Mouse hat from everybody’s favorite theme park as the cone. For the ice cream, she placed two colored bandannas on, I guess representing a double scoop.

If that’s not abstract enough for you, check this out. She ran out of the room after a couple of pictures and came back with another costume possibility. She could also be a Zhu Zhu Pet.

For those of you who don’t know what a Zhu Zhu pet is I took a picture of one of ours. They are a toy that rolls around making all kind of silly noises to drive parents and pets alike crazy.

If nothing else, it was a good reminder to me that our favorite dressing up night is quickly approaching. I like to help the kids make costumes, so I better get started soon. Some of my favorite sites to get original ideas are :  Nick Jr. and Familyfun.

We have been everything from legos, butterflies, Blue (from Blues Clues), to Indian princesses and Ahsoka from Star Wars: the Clone Wars. Creating is half the fun.

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